The Tactical Empathy Podcast

with Erin Thorp
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Episode 8 Beyond the Golden Rule: Tactical Empathy Insights

In this episode, Erin Thorp explores the inside and outside skills of empathy that help us navigate through tough times at work. She introduces the concept of the new golden rule, which involves treating ourselves the way we want others to treat us. She also discusses the platinum rule, which emphasizes treating others how they want to be treated. Erin emphasizes the importance of practicing empathy with ourselves before extending it to others. She also highlights the significance of non-judgment and perspective-taking in empathetic leadership. Finally, she encourages leaders to release control and build trust with their team members.

 

Today on Tactical Empathy:

 

  • Practice empathy with yourself before extending it to others.
  • Treat others how they want to be treated, not how you want to be treated.
  • Be non-judgmental and practice perspective-taking.
  • Release control and build trust with your team members.

 

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Episode 8 Beyond the Golden Rule: Tactical Empathy Insights

In this episode, Erin Thorp explores the inside and outside skills of empathy that help us navigate through tough times at work. She introduces the concept of the new golden rule, which involves treating ourselves the way we want others to treat us. She also discusses the platinum rule, which emphasizes treating others how they want to be treated. Erin emphasizes the importance of practicing empathy with ourselves before extending it to others. She also highlights the significance of non-judgment and perspective-taking in empathetic leadership. Finally, she encourages leaders to release control and build trust with their team members.

 

Today on Tactical Empathy:

 

  • Practice empathy with yourself before extending it to others.
  • Treat others how they want to be treated, not how you want to be treated.
  • Be non-judgmental and practice perspective-taking.
  • Release control and build trust with your team members.

 

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Episode 7 Cultivating Connection: Ryan Englin’s Approach to Empathy in Talent Attraction

In this conversation, Ryan Englin, the founder and CEO of Core Matters, discusses the importance of empathy in leadership and attracting talent. He shares his experiences and lessons learned from his previous leadership roles in corporate and explains how empathy can be a powerful tool in the workplace. Ryan emphasizes the need for leaders to understand and acknowledge the challenges and struggles that employees and job seekers face. He provides practical examples of how empathy can be applied in the hiring process and offers advice for employers looking to attract the best talent. Ryan also shares personal practices for developing empathy as a leader.

 

Today on Tactical Empathy:

 

  • Empathy is a crucial leadership skill that can have a significant impact on employee engagement and satisfaction.
  • Leaders should strive to understand and acknowledge the challenges and struggles that employees and job seekers face.
  • Creating a supportive and empathetic environment can help attract and retain top talent.

 

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Episode 6 Fix Less, Connect More: Navigating Leadership with Tactical Empathy Insights

In this episode, Erin Thorp discusses the overwhelming human desire to solve other people’s problems and the need to lead with empathy. She shares her own experiences and challenges in seeking understanding and connection in her leadership journey. Erin explores the reasons why people default to fixing and offers insights into building empathy muscles. She emphasizes the importance of slowing down, being comfortable with others’ emotions, and asking questions to support and empower others. Erin concludes by encouraging leaders to fix less and lean into curiosity, allowing space for self-discovery and growth.

 

Today on Tactical Empathy:

 

  • Recognize the overwhelming desire to fix other people’s problems and lead with empathy instead.
  • Build empathy muscles by intentionally practicing empathy in daily interactions.
  • Be comfortable with others’ emotions and allow them to explore and learn from their challenges.
  • Slow down, connect with others, and prioritize building healthy, connected relationships.

 

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Freebie: 5 Practices to Build Empathy Skills

Episode 6 Fix Less, Connect More: Navigating Leadership with Tactical Empathy Insights

In this episode, Erin Thorp discusses the overwhelming human desire to solve other people’s problems and the need to lead with empathy. She shares her own experiences and challenges in seeking understanding and connection in her leadership journey. Erin explores the reasons why people default to fixing and offers insights into building empathy muscles. She emphasizes the importance of slowing down, being comfortable with others’ emotions, and asking questions to support and empower others. Erin concludes by encouraging leaders to fix less and lean into curiosity, allowing space for self-discovery and growth.

 

Today on Tactical Empathy:

 

  • Recognize the overwhelming desire to fix other people’s problems and lead with empathy instead.
  • Build empathy muscles by intentionally practicing empathy in daily interactions.
  • Be comfortable with others’ emotions and allow them to explore and learn from their challenges.
  • Slow down, connect with others, and prioritize building healthy, connected relationships.

 

Connect with Erin:

Freebie: 5 Practices to Build Empathy Skills

Episode 5 Empathy in Construction Leadership with Matt Ohley

In this episode, our host, Erin talks with Matt Ohley, a Construction Manager at Ajax Paving in Tampa Florida, about the importance of empathy in the construction industry and how it can improve leadership. 

 

Matt shares his definition of empathy as walking in someone else’s shoes and understanding their perspective. Together they address the challenges to empathy, including ego and societal expectations. The show explores the role of emotions and gender in construction and the impact of shame on mental health. Matt provides examples of how putting oneself in someone else’s shoes can help navigate difficult situations in construction. He emphasizes the importance of daily practices, such as meditation and self-reflection, in developing empathy. Listeners can connect with Matt on LinkedIn.

 

Today on Tactical Empathy:

 

  • Empathy is crucial in the construction industry and can improve leadership.
  • Challenges to empathy in construction include ego, pride, and societal expectations.
  • Emotions and gender play a role in how empathy is perceived in the industry.
  • Shame can hinder vulnerability, and empathy is the antidote to shame.
  • Putting oneself in someone else’s shoes can help navigate difficult situations in construction.
  • Daily practices, such as meditation and breathwork, can help develop empathy muscles.

 

Connect with Matt Ohley: 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matt-ohley-a89769107/

Episode 4 Navigating Change: The Role of Self-Empathy

In this episode, Erin Thorp explores the relationship between empathy and change. She discusses the self-criticism and self-judgment that often arise during times of change and emphasizes the importance of self-empathy in navigating these challenges. Erin explains that developing empathy muscles allows us to recognize and question our own thoughts and perspectives, leading to personal growth. She provides tools for navigating change, including getting quiet, examining the evidence for our thoughts, and practicing mindfulness. Erin encourages listeners to approve of themselves and embrace imperfections, as self-acceptance is key to taking action and pursuing fulfillment.

 

Today on Tactical Empathy:

 

  • Self-empathy is crucial during times of change, as self-criticism and self-judgment often arise.
  • Developing empathy muscles allows us to recognize and question our own thoughts and perspectives.
  • Tools for navigating change include getting quiet, examining the evidence for our thoughts, and practicing mindfulness.
  • Approving of ourselves and embracing imperfections is key to taking action and pursuing fulfillment.

 

Connect with Erin:

Freebie: 5 Practices to Build Empathy Skills

Episode 4 Navigating Change: The Role of Self-Empathy

In this episode, Erin Thorp explores the relationship between empathy and change. She discusses the self-criticism and self-judgment that often arise during times of change and emphasizes the importance of self-empathy in navigating these challenges. Erin explains that developing empathy muscles allows us to recognize and question our own thoughts and perspectives, leading to personal growth. She provides tools for navigating change, including getting quiet, examining the evidence for our thoughts, and practicing mindfulness. Erin encourages listeners to approve of themselves and embrace imperfections, as self-acceptance is key to taking action and pursuing fulfillment.

 

Today on Tactical Empathy:

 

  • Self-empathy is crucial during times of change, as self-criticism and self-judgment often arise.
  • Developing empathy muscles allows us to recognize and question our own thoughts and perspectives.
  • Tools for navigating change include getting quiet, examining the evidence for our thoughts, and practicing mindfulness.
  • Approving of ourselves and embracing imperfections is key to taking action and pursuing fulfillment.

 

Connect with Erin:

Freebie: 5 Practices to Build Empathy Skills

Episode 3 Empathy Tools: Exploring Leadership and Breathwork with Ashlee Livingstone

In this conversation, host Erin Thorp and guest Ashlee Livingstone discuss the journey of leadership and the importance of taking responsibility as a leader. They explore the relationship between breathwork and empathy, highlighting how breathwork can help leaders build empathy muscles. Ashlee shares different types of breathwork that can be used in various situations. 

 

Today on Tactical Empathy:

  • Leaders need to take responsibility for their own leadership journey and lead themselves first.
  • Empathy is about relating to someone without taking ownership of their feelings.
  • Breath work can help leaders build empathy muscles and navigate challenging situations.
  • Different types of breath work can be used to calm and center oneself or to activate energy and motivation.

 

Connect with Ashlee Livingstone:

 

Episode 2 Speak so They Listen: Empathy Tactics

“As soon as I notice that I am not feeling like I’m being heard, it’s a chance and invitation for me to start listening closer. I have to notice that instinct to win, and go, ‘Now is not the time.’”

 

Today, Erin addresses a common leadership challenge: getting your team to listen. Drawing from her experiences with her teenagers, she demonstrates the importance of understanding others’ perspectives to foster effective dialogue. Erin emphasizes that empathy is about understanding, not agreement, and provides practical steps for leaders to engage in empathetic conversations, leading to collaborative problem-solving and stronger team dynamics.

 

Today on Tactical Empathy:

  • The struggle leaders face in getting their teams to listen
  • Common misconceptions about empathy
  • Using empathy to enhance communication
  • Practical steps for empathetic dialogue
  • How Erin uses empathy in action

 

Connect with Erin:

Episode 2 Speak so They Listen: Empathy Tactics

“As soon as I notice that I am not feeling like I’m being heard, it’s a chance and invitation for me to start listening closer. I have to notice that instinct to win, and go, ‘Now is not the time.’”

 

Today, Erin addresses a common leadership challenge: getting your team to listen. Drawing from her experiences with her teenagers, she demonstrates the importance of understanding others’ perspectives to foster effective dialogue. Erin emphasizes that empathy is about understanding, not agreement, and provides practical steps for leaders to engage in empathetic conversations, leading to collaborative problem-solving and stronger team dynamics.

 

Today on Tactical Empathy:

  • The struggle leaders face in getting their teams to listen
  • Common misconceptions about empathy
  • Using empathy to enhance communication
  • Practical steps for empathetic dialogue
  • How Erin uses empathy in action

 

Connect with Erin:

Episode 1 You’re Not Broken

“If we want to get better results, we must understand people’s feelings.”

 

In Tactical Empathy, host Erin Thorp explores the role of empathy in leadership. Sharing her journey as a young female engineer in a male-dominated field, she discusses how her emotional responses, initially seen as a weakness, were later recognized as a leadership strength. Erin emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and naming emotions, and advocating for empathy as a crucial skill for effective leadership.

 

Today on Tactical Empathy:

  • How effective leaders understand people
  • Challenges of emotional expression in a traditionally masculine setting
  • Emotional intelligence as a leadership strength
  • Acknowledging and naming your emotions
  • Empathy’s role in understanding self and others

 

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Understanding empathy and implementing empathy are two entirely different things. 

And contrary to most beliefs, empathy IS NOT an innate trait that you’re either born with or not. Nope. Kick that belief to the curb. Empathy is a skill that you can learn, develop and strengthen. Think of empathy like a muscle, similar to our biceps, we all have them — some are just stronger than others. 

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